Someone might have these thoughts: Who am I and why do I matter? I’m only one person what difference do I make? What difference does anything I do make?
He then bends down and picks up a stick.
There are 7 billion people on this planet and each and everyday it moves and it all happens.
If one action doesn’t doesn’t matter how does it all happen? One thought ate a time, in a moment; one step at a time, in a moment.
Maybe there was once a single atom that asked such a question but here we are and here the universe is.
I think we do not know and understand the importance of one thought in one moment. Thus we conflate lack of understanding with it doesn’t matter.
These moments string together with the collision of time. Bang, bang, bang the moments go. Each nothing but each is absolutely everything.
If we actually think thoughts like that in the first lines we should reflect to see how life works. This shows how powerful right thoughts are.
Tolerance can’t be lawed, regulated or forced into existence.
It seems like:
The depth of the habit or problem we are trying to fix/change will be met with the direct inverse in suffering (pain). When did we become so delusional that it would be all sunshine and rainbows for becoming anew? I’m not sure to what extent we realize our life is pretty close to pure habit.
If it wasn’t why is it so hard to keep our promises to ourselves? Ok, I’ll never eat sugar again, or tomorrow I’ll start (x) but we don’t and then suffering for not doing the set out task and our inner voice is slightly weaker (This is a slow process so we don’t see the change). Even as we succeed suffering takes place because the old way is there beckoning for us, for its return so we fight but we get tired because the pain is to much: Its to hard.
My son is 6 years old and his teacher uses this app called class dojo and basically its a up to the minute report of positive and negative things that happen during the day. We encourage Alex to get 100%. Each day he leaves wanting 100% but then enviably he ends up falling short by not following directions, or other little infractions.
I asked him why doesn’t he just follow directions or not yell out in class? It seriously melted my heart when he said, “Pap, I try but it’s so hard.” I deeply understood what he meant. I laughed and rubbed his back and said, “Yeah, I know.”
For us adults what does this mean? What is hard? This, in my estimation, begs the questions if we truly are in control of ourselves why would it be hard? This is a delusion of the mind. We are not in control our habits are we can use our awareness to help direct our actions and behaviors. Then I ask myself what is the lessor or better form of suffering? I feel it is the suffering from achieving rather than failure so this shows me how important it is for me to show my son in action, discipline and encouragement to build these in his life so he can be a functional, productive, purpose driven, happen human being. This same thing applies to me but I must be the role model…. Enough for now as it is time for practice.
1) Placing inordinate emphasis on the most trivial matters by reacting to shallow momentary emotional spasms are not the best grounds for developing any sort of deeper fulfillment in life and leads one to continual momentary dissatisfaction.
2) I say explore life’s deeper values and exercise the governance (not blind governance) of all deeper values in ones life while rejecting the shallow emotional reactions. Just the starting point to any sort of meaningful life: practice.
3) Balance and moderation in all things is an art: habit.
A life (or world) in which feelings are ones highest virtues is a life that can only expect a world of hell, chaos and an abundance of suffering.
Has the value we’ve place on individualism actually made us less happy and view the world with more contempt?
Has this value actually made us more isolated and brought forth a bounty of depression, anxiety and suicides?
Has this value divided our relationships, our family and our communities?
Has this value been a contributor to all the polarization that we’ve been seeing in our country?
His this value made us indifferent to those around us because it is all about me, the individual? “Fuck you! Do you know what you did to me?”
Has this value caused us to place excessive emphasis on feelings/our own feelings?
Has this value eroded other values such as free speech?
Is it this value that has been caused the breakdown of the more wholesome societal norms?
Is it even ok for me to even question such a thing without being branded and labeled as some sort of collective extremist?
I have built city, state and national walls and boarders
A result of walls and boarders built by my mind
Relics and tools handed down from generation to generation
Time erodes its reasons so I create my own
Powerful tool or powerful master?
We have freewill do we? Who is the one thinking our thoughts? Is freewill a continued state of giving unintentional attention to the thoughts that arise and then getting lost in them? Is freewill impulsively acting out however we feel? Wait, did I choose to feel this way at this moment and think this thought? Is freewill blaming others for making us feel this way? How can they make me feel this way if I am free?
Today is the day of change I declare! I act on my own accord and with complete autonomy. Wait, why did I just do that, again?
Oh no, why me? You got to be kidding me! Come on, not now! Oh great, just what I needed!
When was it supposed to happen, yesterday?
“I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself.
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough
without ever having felt sorry for itself” – D. H. Lawrence
A couple days ago I read this nice little article by Reynolds Made called the Power of Silence in which she speaks about the importance of silence in her life and then gives some very piratical ways incorporate some silence in your life.
My post today is regarding a comment that I read that really struck a cord with me and it’s been on my mind since. It went something like this, “I would like to have some silence in my life but I have two little kids.” I felt a great amount of compassion and understanding because this type of mindset is something we all find ourselves in, albeit to varying degrees.
To me, whenever we are here or in this state we are in a poverty mindset, in that it is disempowering and lacks creativity. What we want is outside our control or, first, in order for us to achieve (anything) our external circumstances must change before we can. If only I had this… then I could be happy; If only I could do this… then I could finally do what I always wanted; if only things were different.. then I could… if only, if only.
In David Deutsch’s book The Beginning of Infinity he say’s problems are inevitable and all problems are soluble given proper knowledge. For me there are several ways to achieve knowledge but it almost always starts with a question, and the way we framed and/or reframe the question becomes very important.
There is one question that I like to ponder when I find myself in a poverty mindset: Well, what can I do? Sometimes the solution is a quick one and other times the solution takes several years to achieve. It all depends on the complexity of the problem, and then I do what is within my control and leave the rest.