The mind seems to always be dreaming. The difference in wakeful dreaming and sleep dreaming is consciousness. Consciousness seems to act as a barrier that keeps the dreams more orientated and cohesive; nonetheless, it’s still very dream like if we actually pay attention. Remove the barrier and we know how crazy things can get in our sleeping dream state.
Simplicity isn’t easy because our nature tells us we need more. Collecting and living in abundance is actually the easy way. However, the best and easiest way to live a purposeful life is through simplicity.
Discipline and habit (suffering) are our friends. Don’t fear suffering, embrace it!
Having an orderly soul is the main key to life.
white, black, rich, poor, fat, thin, ugly, beautiful, sick, healthy, old, young right, left matters not. The inverse of one’s position should matter not nor should it agitate one’s heart and mind. It’s through the inverse that life exists, not it’s eradication of the inverse.
we can all meet in the field of our humanity and disparities.
may I seek to bring my soul in order and see life for what it is, no more need for hatred or division.
Take away intent, meaning or point
You take away a mans (woman or zers)
Meaning to be.
It’s the over complication
To be more than it has or needs to be
For if we look deeply
We see the person that is in front of me
Them, you or me needs to be
The person we set out to be
Nothing but me
What does this even mean?
Can we even comprehend
If we cannot see ourselves honestly?
Unfortunately this is where the disconnect
Between them, you and me is what I see
We miss the unity
Because once I know and understand the person in the mirror
Nothing but a brother stands in the world I see
And there is only unity
Symbolic gestures are part of who we are
But more deeply it is what lies in a persons heart.
I am not a poet, as you can see, nor am I even good at writing poems. I usually right whats on my mind as a way of helping me articulate and deepen my thinking and thought process. The above is sort of in response to some things I have noticed and the best way I know how to point as what I think is a root problem in our country is.
I would describe myself as a classical liberal (look up what this means because it is totally different than the modern term liberal) and I emphasize duty and personal responsibility. I have come to this point of view through meditative practices (understanding my minds conditions) and the studying of various schools of philosophical thought as well as a belief in the scientific method.
I have built city, state and national walls and boarders
A result of walls and boarders built by my mind
Relics and tools handed down from generation to generation
Time erodes its reasons so I create my own
Powerful tool or powerful master?
Yesterday my wife, son and I went downtown to this little art/car show. We invited my mom, and she never declines an opportunity to go, go, go! As we were out my mom was complaining about her knee, and I reminded her, with a smile, that she knew we were going to be out walking around. She said, “I know and I’m sorry for complaining. It’s not really my knee. I’ve just had a bunch of frustrating things on my mind the past week.”
We began talking and my mom was concerned about (I will call this person Ab) Ab and there current situation in life. She said, “I just don’t understand why Ab just can’t get it.”
I then quoted one of my favorite quotes, “To know and to not do is to not really know.” by Stephen Covey. We then spoke about all various programs they have undergone, counselings, and books read. We chatted for awhile about the different type of knowledge one can posses, and also touched on how Ab’s life has has been in a disarray for some time. It was a nice afternoon.
This morning I was thinking about our conversation, Ab, and the to know and not do quote. I think this quote is correct but I approached it from a different angle. This is the new angle: To know and to not do is to not have developed the habit. This is more of an Aristotelian approach/thought.
We are in an age of information. We can access the most profound wisdom known to mankind. However, this information is actually pointless. This information changes nothing. We merely reflect the habits we cultivate in our life. A lot of the time we let life, people, culture, norms, and our inner impulses cultivate us. We are the pin ball inside the machine destined to get launched by whatever we rub up against. Thus, as time passes, a gap emerges between what we know and what we do and inverse for those that practice intentionally.
Build new habits. Sounds easy enough. Often we confuse excitement with habit but the moment the newness wears off we are left standing with all the old urges, impulses, feelings and habits we spent a lifetime cultivating, a lot of the time unknowingly. This new building habits business isn’t as easy as the books like to tell us its. Those of us who have tired to “start anew” know the strength of our old ways.
Solution? I don’t really have one but I can share how I starting practicing mindfulness 3 years ago. How can I remember to be mindful when I’m not mindful, I thought. For my first couple of weeks I tried this mindfulness stuff but I was usually lost for the whole day before I’d remember to be mindful. I wanted to step my game up so I downloaded an application (insight timer) so I could have a reminder bell. For the first year of my practice I set a bell to chime every 10 minutes, I am not laying and I do know this is sort of extreme. 99 percent people thought I was weird, and may people would say things like, “what the hell is that noise?”, “Is that you dinging all the time?” “Oh my god, that is so annoying!”
But, hey, nothing changes if nothing changes. This is what I will continue to say to Ab and the advice I would give to anyone looking to change. There is research, and I know for my practice, that thoughts, feelings, emotions, urges only last 90 seconds (I never timed but I know they arise and fade quickly) if you do not “feed the beast”. So your only 90 seconds away from to reinforcing your new habit and slowly cultivating over the years will change many things.
Below is a book I read about 3 years ago that I really enjoyed. The link is for an amazonsmile which gives a small percentage of the purchase to a charity at no cost to you. In this case it is a local food bank called Harry Chapin Food Bank.
I know this person who is always in a rush at work, day in and day out. I often wonder where she is really trying to go? I wonder what it is that she is really trying to achieve and if she’s ever really found it? I wonder if she even knows?
I see this person in traffic racing around, day in and day out I see someone else. I often wonder where they are really trying to go? Do they know that it will literally only save them 5 minutes at most, and probably only less than a minute! I wonder if they even know?
I watch this person standing in the grocery line looking angry and impatient. I often wonder where they are really trying to go? Speeding around the parking lot looking for the best spot; look at all this time they saved! I wonder what they will do with it? I wonder if they even know?
Where is there to go?
An inch deep and a mile wide
Wishing to be
But when I look beneath I see nothing but hollow
It is quite simple but we have forgotten how to be.
We think “being” is doing what we please but that is merely reacting to desires continuously
We walk around so unaware of the implications of the lack of “being aware”
Unaware of our thoughts that we give energy to by festering on. We merely let our mind ramble and wander all day.
We have a prosperity to focus on negative but if we can see the deep inter-connectedness of all phenomenon and we begin to understand all our blessings and we focus on thus.
This gives energy to positive things and they will begin to rise within ourselves, our family, our community…
This is not pride for we can see the downfall of pride if we understand and look deeply.
Life is practice.
Practice fail practice
Practice succeed practice
Why do this? It is my responsibility.
What is life? What is death? What is consciousness? To me these questions are almost meaningless; let me try to explain what I mean. What is needed for the creation of fire? According to reference.com ““The three elements that are needed to start a fire are oxygen, heat and fuel.Those three elements are part of the fire triangle, which illustrates the interdependence of the ingredients that are necessary to start and sustain a fire.” Fire merely arises, forms, and falls; arises, forms, and falls when the causes and conditions are met. Take away one of these elements and there is no longer fire. Now, if one of the elements of fire is missing is the fire “dead”? It is only dead if we are speaking in a very specific manner. All of our notions of what is and what is not are only relative to what we prescribe them to and outside the particular context those definitions they are meaningless. Right now I think I hear “No, duh”!!! Let us quickly go back to the fire example. We – or I should say “I” – concluded that life and death of our imaginary fire is illusory for if we look deeply we will always see that there is, and will always be, fire when the time is right. It does not die nor is it born it is there, waiting.
Life is always, and I mean always, in a continued flux. According to string theory (the leading contender for a unified theory of everything) states that a small vibrating “string” was a cause for creating our universe. Life is, was, and will be created in a state of continual flow and movement. It is not dead or alive it is moving. In our present of “being” we think of life and death because we see ourselves as a solid and fixed through our state of consciousness. This is an utterly false conception of who and what we actually are (or who we think that we think we are 😛 ). Back to our fanciful bonfire again. You and your friends are sitting outside on a cold brisk evening and decide to rouse a fire to warm your mitts. After you have the fire well stoked you and your friends can observe that the flames of the fire are ever shifting, moving and it is never really the “same” flame from moment to moment, but it is always a fire; similarly, our consciousness works in the same manner. We perceive ourselves as being this constant entity like the word fire. Our consciousness is the “who”, or where this “who”, we think we are arises from. Upon close examination we will see that our consciousness is kind of a “holding spot” to “light” up some internal process within our body. Like the elements that make a flame and a fire everything within our body is in continuing flux. An itch here and there, our minds shifting from one thought to the next, blood flowing, heart beating, we are always fidgeting and shifting our positions and so on. Our consciousness only appears to be fixed to the untrained observer. But is it really? Is it really hard and concrete? Upon close examination of our own conscience what begins to emerge is that when the causes and conditions have been met it will arises, some might say this is something from nothing but I believe this too is a false notion – nobody really knows what the cause and conditions are for consciousness or what consciousness actually is. Before all the causes and conditions are met consciousness is not dead or alive it is there, waiting (1). Because we are untrained at observing we duped and fooled into believing that we are fixed, as a result we fear, hate, have greed, and become victims. From this confused state we linearly piece together our whole life and create our story (a question to reflect upon, what in life is linear?). We are surmised and bamboozled into notions of birth and death but these are absurdly narrow views; additionally, these terms only apply in the most limited context.
As we begin to see life in a few of the manners described the ideas of life and death fade and what is left is beauty and wonder; we begin to see everything in flux and moving about; we begin to see who and what we really are. Our feelings, finally, are just feeling that arise and fall. Our feelings are not who we are but are fleeting and temporarily based on causes and conditions and habitual tendencies. We are free because we are no longer tethered and enslaved to these false conceptions of reality (being free doesn’t mean these feelings and emotions are no longer present) . One could say that for that first time we truly get to exercise our liberties as human beings.
I encourage you not to trust or believe anything that was explained but examine for yourself. More than likely it will take time and practical experience. At very least you can begin to read, while practicing, and learn intellectually while simultaneously gaining experiential knowledge. As you learn, both intellectually and experimentally, this paradigm that was spoken about will begin to be clear.
The best way that I know how to begin observing is by meditation. The type of meditation is simply sitting there watching things come and go in a non reactive manner. Here is a list of a few applications that can assist you with your practice (below). If you are looking for some book hop on the Google machine and do a little research and just jump in.
- Calm (one that I’ve used in the past)
- Mindbody Connect
- Meditation Timer Pro
- Smiling Mind
- Take A Break
- Insight Timer (one that I use now). If you join look me up: James from Lehigh Acres
1) I said, “consciousness is not dead or alive it is there, waiting.” I wanted to clarify because, right now, I don’t give much credence to the notion of consciousness as something that is physical or has its own identity, though I do like to toy around with that idea. I was using that term “there, waiting” more abstractly. There is a thesis on panpsychism that some might be interested looking into if you are exploring various areas of conciseness.
What is change?
It is to make or become different.
But how do we make or become different? What is it that changes or becomes different?
It’s almost quite strange and paradoxical because if you ask a person they say change is possible; however, I often hear terms like, “this is who I am” or “that is just my genetics” or just flat out “I can’t change” “I’m too old to change” from the same person or people that confesses change is possible. Right now you might think, “I do not think nor would I say such a thing.” I ask that you truly take a moment and reflect or at very least carry this idea with you and next time you have a conversation on a similar topic; examine your thoughts and your words and see what comes into the mind.
If we are of the mindset that we cannot change and ‘we are who we are’, my question I would like to pose is: why do anything? Because at this point nobody can change, things are the way they are, and trying to change the outcome is completely futile. Right now you might be thinking, “This is absurd I most certainly can change or have influence on the outcome!” I would like to ask how can you change the outcome? Is not the outcome a conglomeration of individual action? Based off the assumption that you cannot change, how is it that you can invoke change on an unchangeable person? Is it not your action on the situation that influences an undetermined outcome, or at least creates small amounts of influence on the outcome? Who or what are you influencing? The new outcome is forged by unchangeable individual’s, right?
This is so absurd that I think we can agree that you are not who you are, you can change, your genetics do allow for change, you’re not to old, and brain plasticity allows one to form new neural pathways. Maybe this is what we meant, change is slow and sometimes so slow it’s almost unnoticeable thus giving the illusion that we cannot change nor affect change. Additionally, we cannot always see and notice the reminisce of our actions on others and even how the actions of others on us influences change on us. It’s like micro changes on us and we create tension in our environment leading to micro influences that affect others.
This is the heart of the matter: you can and do change, though it comes slowly, not always easily, and most of the time left completely unnoticed giving the illusion that we don’t change.
If we look closely at change through this paradigm what might become apparent is our behavior does create change and it does have an impact on others. We can begin to see the importance of our action (think micro change and micro influence). Think about someone that inspires you, why do they inspire you? Is it because of what they say or what they do? At first words might seem like the supreme choice but this is both short term and short sighted if used as your “weapon” of influence as they usually for propaganda and manipulation. Eventually our actions are reviled and when words and actions do not align it will cause animosity in some, or most, that we wish to inspire. Those with wisdom and understand know how true and lasting influential action is created.
However, and this is a huge however… this road and way of change and influence is very slow, very slow and because of this we hope we can just take a pill to make this change for us. Life IS action. The effect of this action by individuals (me) is small and almost unnoticed so we doubt, and are blinded by how our actions affect and touch the world. With thousands of acts a day per person and billions of people on this earth we can see the effects of collective action at work. We work on our behavior and our behavior consists of habits. Habits that have been knowingly or unknowingly developing via micro changes (sadly most of our habits we build unknowing as we mindlessly walk through life) and these inner habits are what we think of as change when we look back upon our life. Do we honestly think when our hearts are filled hate, greed, lust, envy, fear and so forth that this type of thinking and behavior has a zero net effect on our environment and those around us? Ponder this day and night. If our hearts and our minds are in a particular place the majority of our actions will reflect that (this is just statistical probability). We can only fake being someone until we run out of willpower and then our habits take over. What are our habits? Do we even know? Water has the power to carve stone and our thoughts are this water to carve the stone which are our habits. These habits shape our world.
What can we do? Change. Knowing is not enough. The changing of habits is not the easy way nor the fast way but it is the only way for really lasting change to occur. Work daily, hourly, minutely on changing. We go to work daily to provide a better future for our children but we don’t realize how futile this is because our world will be the same place if we don’t change, and I am not speaking of the change that acts upon us. It will be a place filled with hate, lust, greed, envy, rather than love, compassion, comm-unity honesty; these latter qualities are ones that ONLY YOU can put into existence. No government, rules, laws, money or external entity can do this for us. I must put them into existence by my actions and until then I can expect the same thing over and over.